When I began updating this page, I realized this past year has been more about joy than grief. The longer I do life the more I realize how much there is of both.
A friend I admire wrote this after the tragic death of a young family member:
Tears + laughter = LIFE
Hmm, that’d be a smoking tattoo.
I’m 40+ now, and I still don’t feel like a grown-up.
When I started this blog, I planned to focus on grief, but this space has become much more than that. It’s about life — the beauty and the messy.
Here at Grief Happens, I tell some hard truths. Therefore, I LIE hard about our real names. I go by Vivianne — Viv or Vivi for short. It sounds formal. It’s not; I’m not.
I’m a yogi, a seeker, a friend, a partner, a mother, a daughter, a writer, an emotional train wreck from time to time.
I write about my two kids, Piers and Wallace, who are now eleven and ten years old. They make me laugh, cry, pull my hair out and hyperventilate regularly, though less now than when they were toddlers.
I write about my relationship with Gil, the kids’ dad, my one true love and the person I planned to do life with. That dream died a few years ago, but we do our best to get along for the sake of our children. Some days we succeed; other days are more challenging. It’s a practice for sure. We currently live under the same roof and do our best to co-parent our children. It’s not easy or traditional, but that’s where we are at the moment. Enough said for now.
Writing keeps me emotionally even, so you’ll find a variety of topics – daily life, parenting, co-parenting, mindfulness, mental health, medication, ADHD, music, books, etc.
I lost my father to suicide over twenty years ago, and while that altered my life tremendously, it made me more determined than ever to seek the good in the world. I believe in the power of humor to pull us from the depths, and I do my best to see the lesson in difficult situations. Some days that’s easier than others, but I believe it’s always worth the effort.
I hope you find something you like. I’d love to hear from you!
Other places to find me, though I’m not there much — I hang here at GH the most: