Less Forcing, More Embracing

Early in the pandemic, mid-2020 would be my guess, one of my wise guides introduced me to Human Design. I was beyond intrigued. I dove head first down the rabbit hole and ingested everything on the topic that I possibly could. This Human Design blueprint was fascinating. It gave me insight into myself and my decision making process like nothing I’d ever encountered.

One of the biggest takeaways was that I am a non-specific manifestor. This manifesting method is newer to the world. Traditionally, we are told to get clear on exactly what we want – write lists, make vision boards, etc. We’re even told, and I’ve heard this phrase numerous times, “If you don’t know what you want, you’ll never get it.” I can’t begin to describe how hurtful and unsettling this statement is to someone who simply is not wired in such a manner, a Non-Specific like me.

Five years after my first encounter with Human Design, I am no longer binge reading everything I can on the topic, but it is still very much on my radar. When I feel off or misaligned, I find myself turning to my individual blueprint as a tool to guide me when things feel rocky.

I use Jenna Zoe’s Align app on my iPhone. I like the simplicity of the design, and it works as a sort of one-stop when I need a quick summary of my individual design profile. She also has a podcast that is excellent.

I also love books by Karen Curry Parker. I keep a copy of Curry-Parker’s book Understanding Human Design nearby at all times. Additionally, I reference Erin Claire Jones, Emma Dunwoody, DayLuna Podcast with Dana Stiles and Shayna Cornelius, as well as the Moonrise Human Design Podcast. There are others, but these are where I go first.

Perhaps I’ll write more about Human Design in the future – it’s a fascinating topic. But here’s where I’m going with all this. I function better in life when I embrace, react to the circumstances, accept, pay attention to how I feel about something and move forward accordingly. I get all wonky and out of sorts when I charge hard and force the narrative. Anything I do with force and without flow does not serve me.

I have to be honest, though. This is not always an easy way to exist in the world. Take my life as a parent for instance. Do you know how many programs I’ve sat through, be it school, or sports or another extracurricular activity and had the leader of said activity remind and reinforce the importance of mapping out the future? It’s truly exhausting for someone like me. However, both of my children ARE specific manifestors, so I can’t simply apply my design to them. It gets mucky for sure.

I have been feeling a little off the past few weeks. A lot has been happening around here. The kids are out of school. It’s hot as the seventh layer of hell. I’ve had some medication complications. We’re all managing, but my motivation hasn’t been great. I opted out of a July 4th party last night. My social battery has dwindled and needs recharging in a big way. The only way I know to recharge it is calm, quiet, alone time. When I feel like this, I also have an unquenchable urge to purge and declutter my house. It may not be an ideal solution, but it definitely makes me feel calmer on the inside.

I got up before anyone else in the house this morning and felt moved to try an activity I read about somewhere, some time that is not now. (This simply means I have no idea where this came from.)

There are lots of books in my house. As much as I want to declutter, I have zero interest in parting with my beloved books. Blasphemous, such a thought! Contrary to what Gil thinks, I have downsized my book collection tremendously. Anyway, as often happens with collections, these books are not being used. This activity is designed 1) as a creativity prompt and 2) it helps with the not using and forces you to circulate and get your eyes on the written word. Stay with me, please…

I acted as I best remembered. I went to a large bookshelf and closed my eyes. I ran my hands up and down and all around over the books. When I stopped, I pulled the book where my hand landed off the shelf and opened it to a random page. The idea is that whatever is on these two pages is something the selector needs for that day. Like words of wisdom. Kind of cool, don’t you think? It certainly played into my Human Design, particularly my manifesting type as a non-specific manifestor. I was expecting something profound. Here’s what appearred:

The book I selected was Organizing Solutions for People with ADHD by Susan C. Pinsky. Lord knows I need this book. The page I selected was all about corralling and purging Tupperware/plastic containers. I actually thought this was an area I had under control, but once I physically walked over and addressed my container stash, I realized I had room for improvement. I added some items to the trash and some to the donate pile. It was a quick activity and the process worked well for my brain. This may sound odd, but it felt like a sign from the universe that this was exactly the thing I needed to do in the moment. Organic. In flow. I would have never knowingly selected this book, but because it was by chance selected FOR me, it was all more novel and new-agey and FUN.

Sometimes getting out of a rut is as simple as trying something in a different way. I’m fiercely independent. A bit stubborn. I don’t like to be told what to do. However, by working WITH my temperament, my design, making changes and moving forward is more fun and certainly starts to feel more manageable.

How do you get out of a rut?

I’d love to hear your hacks and creativity prompts. What has worked well in YOUR life?

7 thoughts on “Less Forcing, More Embracing

  1. Wait…. NON-SPECIFIC MANIFESTOR? Oh wow, I need to do a deep dive into that. This may explain so much.

    But I totally get how doing that activity worked for you! A few weeks ago I was so frustrated with my growing list of writing projects coupled with a dearth of actual writing, and in a burst of creativity I pulled a plastic jar out of the recycling bin, stuck a sign on it that said “Glorious Jar of Writingness.” Then I wrote down 8-10 writing tasks that could well be the first step in getting into one of my writing projects, folded them in half and stuffed them in the jar. I figured any progress was progress and I had been stuck too long in trying to choose the perfect project to work on first. I shut my eyes and pulled one out at random, and somehow that broke the ice and for the next number of weeks I worked on that project quite gleefully. I’ve been grinding to a halt with it lately, and it may be time to pull out the Glorious Jar of Writingness again and see what my next task will be!

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  2. This reads like the beginning of a short story. Interested to see how it develops! Anyway, I like the idea of going with the Flow and feeling one’s way along rather than forcing things. I agree about cleaning, organising, walks etc. I also journal a lot – but not sure whether that helps me to get out of a rut. Read, write, reflect, repeat ….

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    • Hmmm… a short story. I can see that. Good idea with the journaling. I journal a good bit but have not been in the habit of doing it regularly. I should get back to that. Thanks!

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  3. Cleaning, organizing, exercise, walks in nature, music, cooking are some of the helpful ways to get myself out of a rut and to inspire creativity. I love the idea of human design too! Thanks for sharing.

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