March Sucks and I’m Sad

/ Viv@Grief Happens

I have little to say.

I should plan to go on a vacation for the month of March.

It’s just all-around difficult, and it doesn’t help that Gil doesn’t understand.

Today he told me to get over it and that I should stop feeling sorry for myself.

He’s probably right, but I don’t want to hear that from him. I don’t have the energy to break this down further, so I’m linking to the post I wrote last year around this time:

March is a Beast

I’ll be back soon — hopefully with something more uplifting.

Do you struggle with anniversaries? Any suggestions on how to move past grief? What has worked for you?

7 thoughts on “March Sucks and I’m Sad”

  1. I’m sorry this is so hard for you. The minute I read your post title, I remembered the post you wrote this time last year. I’m not sure this is something you have to get over. This is a difficult time for you, and that’s all there is to it. Owning it, accepting it, and just allowing yourself the space to grieve might be helpful.

    The kids’ school could be more thoughtful and just have Spring Break in March so that you could take a vacation, because that sounds like it wouldn’t be a bad idea! Hang in there…tomorrow we will be more than halfway there. Hugs.

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    • I completely, 100%, agree with RisingSong’s comment.

      I think that trying to force away or otherwise tamp down on what you feel invalidates the feeling. I think you’re showing yourself kindness and compassion when you liberate yourself to feel what you feel without censor – and you NEED kindness and compassion when you’re in pain. I think it’s really, really important to honor how you feel; it’s a part of who you are.

      I’m thinking suddenly of those “artist dates” Julia Cameron talks about in The Artist’s Way – for nurturing and pampering your “inner artist” (and in so doing honoring that urge within yourself.) If an actual vacation isn’t possible, maybe it might be helpful to build into your day some specific periods for nurturing yourself?? Taking care of yourself and being consciously good to yourself in difficult periods can sometimes help a lot – more than you’d think (in my experience.) It’s something about knowing that however much the people around you don’t understand or otherwise aren’t giving you what you need, you have YOURSELF. And you can be there for yourself – even baby yourself if that’s what it takes. There’s no weakness in that.

      I’m so sorry you’re going through this!

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      • Thanks so much. Great advice. It’s funny, those artist’s dates are what I struggle with the most. I think you’re right that now would be the perfect time to try one.

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