I just hung up the phone with a friend and am struggling to make sense of the last hour. She talked. I listened. I'm not sure why, but she chose me to tell all the things. The unpretty. I wish I had sent her to voicemail, and for that I feel like the most ample … Continue reading Upretty Secrets
Marriage
A Holding Pattern
I haven’t written much about my marriage lately. My friend, Antoinette, and her three children came to visit a few weeks ago and when I mentioned Gil in conversation, she timidly asked, “So…how are you guys?” I took a deep breath and attempted to center myself before answering. I can be joltingly transparent and don’t … Continue reading A Holding Pattern
A Mini Update and Advice Gleaned from Jane Austen
Ah...Grief Happens...but so does joy! I've missed you guys! I have so much I want to share, but alas, I'm the type who thrives only if I get my 8 hours of sleep, eat my veggies and healthy fats, and move my ass on the regular. I've been quite busy with some of my other … Continue reading A Mini Update and Advice Gleaned from Jane Austen
Travel Anxiety and Pontificating on My Marriage
I am a nomad. I live and breathe any and every opportunity to travel the globe and immerse myself in new places and cultures. Traveling is what makes me feel most alive. At least I USED to feel this way. I've been on adventure-travel hiatus since Piers and Wallace came on the scene, though I'm … Continue reading Travel Anxiety and Pontificating on My Marriage
Past Post Monday — I Needed a Muzzle Then; I STILL Need One from Time to Time
It's fun to look back and see progress, as well as the demons that still occasionally haunt us. I played a blog game tonight and read old posts at random. Since I haven't had much writing mojo lately, I decided to play and post. I closed my eyes, tapped my tag cloud and up popped … Continue reading Past Post Monday — I Needed a Muzzle Then; I STILL Need One from Time to Time
Until I Have Time to Write…
Enjoy this from The Mind Unleashed. "Kindness (along with emotional stability) is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in a relationship. Kindness makes each partner feel cared for, understood and validated." "Another powerful kindness strategy revolves around shared joy. One of the telltale signs of the disaster couples studied, was their inability to … Continue reading Until I Have Time to Write…
Gone Girl Reflections
****SPOILER ALERT**** I will be discussing the just released movie Gone Girl, based on the bestseller with the same name by Gillian Flynn. I'm not planning to drop any major plot giveaways, but what I write will give you some ideas about the movie, so if you prefer to go into a film with a blank … Continue reading Gone Girl Reflections
Soaking Up the Happy
Yesterday was good. I got out of my head and spent the entire day with my sweet, but oh-so-active boys. I had been so fixated on my marriage issues and work and all the negativity that I had been a little detached. Sometimes we have to consciously force ourselves into the present — at least … Continue reading Soaking Up the Happy
I Flopped the Bread so the Meltdown Continues
I hadn't planned to post again today, but after flopping a loaf of bread in the bread maker, I found myself sobbing in the bathroom. I am trying to recover from this weekend shit-storm, but all that's happening is that I'm fixating on the train wreck that is my marriage. Piers walked in and asked … Continue reading I Flopped the Bread so the Meltdown Continues
Sunday Morning Crashing Down
You guys, I AM SO GROUCHY!! I've been planning to do a follow-up to my last post, specifically to talk about my relationship with Gil. I had made that lovely resolution to kiss him for ten seconds everyday, and as I mentioned, I am failing miserably. I really want to list all the fabulous things … Continue reading Sunday Morning Crashing Down
Grief Happens 